Monday, April 22, 2013

Romance

Have any issues about being single, or dislike something about your relationship? Go ahead and write about it - I'm sure it'll lift the burden off your shoulders. Nobody's going to flame you if you post anonymously, so don't hesitate to go all out.

But this is not a dating blog; do not, under any circumstances, propose a relationship. A solution would be appreciated, but just keep in mind that not everybody will have the same perspective and opinions as you. Keep it respectful, and preferably, realistic.

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6 comments:

  1. MilkiiApril 23, 2013 at 5:14 AM

    Haii Freya~
    Hm
    You know my situation pretty well
    But I'm in this relationship which isn't going all that great; I don't want to leave him just yet, but I'm not exactly happy. Should I think about it some more?

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  2. UnknownApril 23, 2013 at 1:35 PM

    I think it's a good idea to think about it some more, but don't let it take control of your life. In high school, your primary concern should be academics, not your boyfriend. He may be important to you, but your education is definitely the number one priority.

    Maybe let things settle down for a bit, and talk it through with him. I could be that you're just going in an "up-and-down" stage. But if you really don't like the way things are going, make it clear that you aren't terribly pleased with how the relationship is going. If he's not willing to discuss the problems in a situation that concerns both of you, then I don't think it's a great idea to stay with him. Being firm, but not harsh, is essentially to get your opinions through, and try to think from his perspective. It might seem like a proposition for a break-up, if done incorrectly, but since that's what you don't want, be careful with your wording. Subtlety isn't going to be very useful, so just be frank. Also, if you make a decision - stick to it! It's best to be clear, trust-worthy and honest.

    But dating him out of pity is a no-no; it's just going to end badly, no matter what.

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  3. MilkiiJune 3, 2013 at 1:39 PM

    Hm.
    I really like one of my guy friends
    a lot
    but i'm not sure if he likes me in the same way
    we're incredibly good friends, and really similar
    he knows my dark past and i know his
    but i don't know whether it can ever grow to be more than friendship?

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    1. UnknownJune 4, 2013 at 4:04 AM

      Really think about your opinions - how did you last relationship go? How would you approach this differently/similarly?

      But it's true that you don't learn things if you never try, so maybe it's worth the risk. If you're willing to try, don't be too subtle or things will get a little awkward. Flirting is a no-no in the beginning. Be direct and confident, but not up in his face or anything. It's good to give him a say and a chance, too.

      If he rejects you, then that's that. Can't cry over spilled milk, and hopefully, you'll be able to fall back into place as friends.

      But you don't really need a boyfriend, if that's what motivating you. You can be perfectly happy as an independent young lady. Don't over think this too much - it'll just stress you out. Relationships are nice, but if they make you really anxious, it's probably not a good idea t keep going with them. Just be accepting and open, and not too desperate.

      Good luck. c;

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  4. UnknownMarch 7, 2022 at 5:43 AM

    I'm not sure if I have a crush on someone or if I feel huuge social anxiety around em because I don't know them that well. How do I figure this out?

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